2008年12月16日星期二

男人来自金星,女人来自火星(节选)

【女生篇】
  • 信任男人
  • 表现出你需要他
  • 多暗示并且鼓励男生关心自己
  • 一个成熟的女人,在满足男人需要的同时,更渴望对方给予回报。
  • 作为女人,你不该动辄发怒,抱怨男人给予的太少。
  • 女人要正视男人的缺点,接受他不完美这个事实。
  • 只要更多地练习和实践,两个人就可以和谐、融洽地相处。
  • 在某种意义上,男人非但不是勇敢者,而且,他可能羞涩和怯懦。因此,你必须做出鼓励之态,给男人或委婉、或直率的提醒,让男人受到激励,感到振奋和鼓舞。你要让男人体验到自身的强大。
  • 男人缺乏安全感,也会自作聪明地自我补偿——除了本人以外,他不再关心任何人。
  • 女人的失望和忧伤写在脸上,或溢于言表,男人就自觉是个失败者。这时候,他必然难以倾听女人的感受。
  • 你应该知道,只要容许男人独处一段时间,他会神清气爽,弃“巢”而出,让一切恢复原状,归于正常。
  • 男人说“我很好”,你就应该知道,这是男人真实动机的简单表述。实际上,男人是想表明:“我真的很好,因为我自己能处理好这件事,不需要任何帮助。你想支持我,就不要为我操心。你要相信我,我很快就可以摆脱困境,度过难关!”
  • 怎样支持“洞穴人”

    1、不要排斥或否认他独处的需求。

    2、不要想当然地提出建议,帮助男人解决问题。

    3、不要一再询问男人的想法和感受,这只会让他产生反感。

    4、不要守候在“洞穴”附近,劝说男人回心转意,尽快走出来。

    5、不要杞人忧天地为男人担心,也不要多此一举地表示歉意。

    6、做一切让自己快乐的事情!

  • 你真的渴望交谈,就索性给男人写一封信,留待他走出“洞穴”后阅读。
  • 男人在洞穴时,女人应该做的:阅读一本书,聆听优美的音乐、在院子里活动、进行体育锻炼、做按摩、听“励志类”录音带、品尝美味食品、打电话给女性朋友,做倾心交谈、写日记、购物、做祈祷或者冥想、外出散步、洗泡沫浴、看心理医生、看电视或者录像

  • 除非男人请求,你才可以给予批评或建议。你要信任他,相信他的能力和潜力。
  • 想给男人建议时,马上说对不起,或者说我不喜欢这么穿,穿那件给我看好不?
  • 男人需要的不是关心,是信任
  • “这不是你的错”——当着男人的面,只要暗示这一结论,他就不会受到伤害。
  • 倾诉完后应该说:“我感觉好多了,亲爱的,谢谢你!”
【男生篇】
  • 珍爱他
  • 表现出你关心她
  • 一个成熟的男人,在实现自我需要的同时,更想成为慷慨的给予者。
  • 男人也不要抱怨女人态度消极,缺少宽容。抱怨无济于事。
  • 男人应当关注女人的需要。即便没有提出请求,你也要为她付出,让她心安理得。要为她做各种琐细小事,展示你的关心。
  • 要经常倾听她的心声,这样,她就更加信任你,向你敞开心扉,给你更多的爱。
  • 只要更多地练习和实践,两个人就可以和谐、融洽地相处。
  • 他知道,人人都会犯错,“人非圣贤,孰能无过”,何必遮遮掩掩?他奉行“有则改之,无则加勉”,他相信女人不仅会原谅他,还可能另眼相看

2008年12月14日星期日

【读书笔记】【学会人际交往】

  • 1. 真正的人际交往不是看“我从对方处能得到什么”,而是看“我能给对方提供什么”。
  • 2. 要多关注别人的优点才能相信别人,尊重别人!
  • 3. 看完书要多实践!不能纸上谈兵!从自己开始,从现在开始!
  • 4. 经常和好朋友分享好的东西。
  • 5. 多参加各种聚会
  • 6. 不要为了眼前的小利益
  • 7. 舍己为人是抛砖引玉
  • 8. 放低姿态,学会倾听和赞美
  • 9. 回复同学的“新闻”
  • 10. 给予对方6次帮助便可以获得4次帮助
  • 谈话时请对方吃点儿零食,谈话结束后看看书、听听音乐等
  • 确定人脉管理的100名单
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2008年12月3日星期三

【总结】英文文献综述常用句式(1)

【描述:已有研究的贡献】

1. The work of _________made a major contribution to ___________.

2. A decade later _______contributed a seminal work on ________, using such concepts as______.

3. ________ studies provide numerous detailed description and explanations of ________

4. Another major work on ______by_____further developed the concept of _________.

5. Developing _________ to the understanding of the interaction between ______ and ______

6. They theorized about ______________.

7. His studies examined how______________.

【描述前人研究结果】

1. Their study_______ showed that __________

2. Somebody's study suggested how both ______ and __________ provide opportunities for __________.

3. The latest studies about _____by ____ show ________.

4. A study by _________ demonstrated ________by showing that ________.

【前人的主要观点】

1. In short, they argued that ________________

2. She pointed out that____________

3. it sugguests that___________

【我的观点】


1. My study will attempt to define and examine the pattern of ________________.

2. With this kind of example in mind, my study seeks to find out______________.

3. Concerning ____________, my study will examine_________________.

4. My research following the _______'s suggestion will examine and compare_____________.

5. Therefore, my study will explore how_________.

————————————————————————

【变量间关系】

1. the interaction between A & B

2. A was correlated with B

3. how A relate to B

4. A will probably affect B

【概念解释&现象解释】

1. explained this phenomenon by the theory of ______

2. tried to give a full explanation for _________
using such concepts as_____.

3. _______has applied _____perspective to _____.

【事物特点】

1. _______ was characterized by ___ & _____

【事物分类】

1. He classified environment into two categories: A & B;
A refered to ________;
B refered to ____________.

整理者:路宛兮

【samples】Proposed Research Time-Table(IV)

(V) Proposed Research Time-Table

Sept 1996----Apr 1997 : - Literature review

- Official contact with the outreaching social work team, RHKPF and other agenci
es- Community surveys of the three areas

- Design the questionnaires- Collection of official and unofficial statistic

May 1997----Jun 1997 :

- Statistical analysis of crime and place- Find the targets- Community observati
on (Tuen Mun)

Jul 1997----Sept 1997 : - Field Work

- 1st session Participant Observation of Tuen Mun's JD

Oct 1997----Nov 1997 : - Field Work

- Community observation (Kowloon City and Tseung Kwan O)- Interview the police o
fficers and security guards

Dec 1997----Feb 1998 : - Field Work

- 2nd session Participant Observation of Tuen Mun's JD

Mar 1998----Apr 1998 :

- Analysis of the data obtained from the field work

May 1998----Aug 1998 :

- Write the Thesis

(VI) References

1. Beavon, D.J.(1984) Crime and Environmental Opportunity Structure: The Influen
ce of Street Networks on the Patterning of Property Offenses Unpublished master'
s thesis, Simon Fraser University, British Columbia, Canada.

【samples】Research Proposal(III)

(IV) Methodology

In order to test the hypothesis of the study and examine the main questions raised, the following methodology will be employed.

Participant Observation

Participant observation with a group of juvenile delinquents or marginal youths in Tuen Mun their life style and behaviour. Through cautious participation and obs will be carried out. The aim is to collect more qualitative information aboutervation of the juvenile delinquents' daily and routine activities, I hope to find out how their delinquent patterns have been influenced by environmental factors. I propose to associate myself with Tuen Mun's juvenile delinquents through the help of the district outreaching social work team. I will ask them to introduce me to their clients and rely on a "snowball effect" to approach more subjects. This means making friends with one or more clients and then asking him/her to introduce their friends to me.



Individual Interviews

Individual interviews by a way of structured questionnaire will also be used to collect information about the juvenile delinquents' perception of the environment. The interview is especially important for examining questions like "What kind of environment could encourage juveniles to make the rational choice' to commit delinquency?". I will also attempt to interview police officers and security guards about the effectiveness of both natural and official "guardianship" in these communities.


Community Observation

To collect information about the physical features of Tuen Mun, Tseung Kwan Oand Kowloon City, systematic observations will be carried out. Through several community surveys of the physical settings, I will measure the prevalence or absence of environmental features suggested by CPTED as significant to crime control.By comparing the physical environment of the three studied areas the different environmental influences on the opportunity for juvenile delinquency can be argued.


Analysis of Official/Unofficial Statistic

In order to gain a fuller picture of the situation of juvenile delinquency in Tuen Mun, Tseung Kwan O and Kowloon City, a comprehensive analysis of the officialstatistics will also be undertaken. Besides official data, other sources of statistical data produced by agencies such as District Social Service Center or Youth Committee and Hong Kong Census and Statistics Department (Crime Victim Survey) will also be used. I will pay especial attention to information about the location of juvenile delinquency and the types of delinquency committed in particular places.

常见词组句式:

1. 方法论首句
in order to ... , ...( methodology) will be employed.

2. 词组:检验假设,考核问题
test the hypotheses, examine the question

3. 所使用的方法
..... will be carried out
= .... will be used
= ... will be undertaken
= through ...

4. 使用此方法的目的
to collect information about ....
to gain a fuller picture of

5. 希望实现的目标
i hope to find out how

6. 方法的具体步骤
i will measure
i will attempt to
i propose to
by comparing...

7. 强调某些步骤的意义
i will pay special attention to the information about

【Sample】Research Proposal(II)

(III) Brief Literature Review

Environmental Variables and Crime

The work of the pre-world war II Chicago researchers Shaw and Mcay made a major contribution to criminology by developing the "Ecological" approach to the understanding of the interaction between society and environment in crime causation. 【主要功绩】

They theorized about social relations, urban social structure and their relation ship with crime. 【XX的理论化】Their study "Juvenile Delinquency and Urban Areas"(1942) showed that high crime areas usually straddled the industrial zone which was characterized by very high rates of residential turnover and low rates of home ownership.【事物以为特征】

Shaw and McKay explained this phenomenon by the theory of "social disorganization". 【用理论解释现象】In short, they argued that differences in delinquency rates between areas was correlated with environmental variables like housing conditions, demographic stability and ethnic/social status.

Later, a geographer Davidson (1981) tried to give a full explanation for the relationship between environmental variables and crime. 【对XX全部解释】

He classified environment into two categories
-- physical environment and social environment.【分成两派】 Physical environment referred to the structure and design of an area. For example, parks, leisure grounds, street patterns, commercial complexes and centers are the basic components of the physical environment. Social environment referred to a set of contexts which form the basis for social interaction outside the home such as school, recreation and neighborhood. 【两种分类的展开】Davidson's study suggested how both the social and physical environment provide opportunities for delinquency.

The latest studies about physical environment and crime by Taylor and Harrell (1996) show how physical features like housing design or block layout, land use, territorial features, and physical deterioration relate to crime risk. 【最近的研究】

My study will attempt to define and examine the pattern of
such environmental variables in Tuen Mun, Tseung Kwan O and Kowloon City. Differences in the kinds of environmental factors found in the three study areas may provide hypothetically an explanation for differences in juvenile crime in Hong Kong.【我的研究】

Rational Choice

Clarke (1983, 1993) has applied the "rational choice" perspective to a range of
crimes. [将A应用到B]

His studies examined how
offenders think about a crime situation and how
they choose the most "suitable" environment and opportunity to operate in or ta
rget to select. 【他的研究检验了C】

It suggests that
the environmental features of a place will probably affect a potential offender's perceptions about a possible crime site, their evaluations of the likelihood of success and the availability and visibility of guardians. (Clarke, 1983, 1993, Felson, 1994, Taylor and Harrell, 1996)【研究说说明了C会影响D】

Therefore, my study will explore how juvenile offenders perceive such environmental va
riables and test whether they commit delinquency in a rational fashion.【因此,我的研究会怎样补充】

A study by Beavon (1984, cited in Felson,1994) demonstrated this rational choice
assumption by showing that a shop located in an area with more converging stree
ts suffered more crime than those located elsewhere. Because the street junction
s and intersections made the offender feel that it was more convenient to access
, escape and hide. 【X人的研究通过X展示了X,因为……】

With this kind of example in mind, my study seeks to find out

howsimilar sorts of environmental features in Tuen Mun influence juvenile deli
nquents to make this type of rational choice.【我的研究会怎样】

Crime Prevention Through Environment Design (CPTED)

CPTED studies provide numerous detailed description and explanations of the rela
tionship between crime and place with a view to minimize crime.【研究概述】
For example, Jane Jacobs(1961) found a greater tendency for crime to occur in large publicly accessible areas created by the newer forms of urban planning.【举例】
She pointed out that the new forms of design broke down many of the traditional controls on criminal behavior, for example, the ability of residents to watch the street and the pre
sence of people using the street both night and day.
She suggested that the lack of "natural guardianship" in the environment promoted crime. 【X人的观点】

A decade later Oscar Newman (1972, 1980) contributed a seminal work on crime prevention and environment, using such concepts as "defensible space", "natural surveillance", and "community of interest". 【使用了XX的概念】

Concerning the relationship between
the prevalence or abs
ence of "guardianship" or "surveillance" and crime occurrence, my study will exa
mine whether the environment of Tuen Mun's new town provides insufficient "natur
al guardianship" compared to Kowloon City which leads to a high delinquency rate【我的研究设想】
.

Another major work on environmental criminology by Pat and Paul Brantingham (199
0) further developed the concept of CPTED. 【XX发展了XX理论】

The Brantinghams' suggested that "routine activity" such as the way the potential offenders live, work or go to school, and engage in leisure could influence the offenders to search for crime targets. For example, places near McDonald's restaurants and 7-eleven stores where youths like to gather after school may suffer more property crime than other place
s.

Hence, the Brantinghams' suggested that schools should be kept away from shopping malls and convenience-stores so youths do not congregate at these places after school or at lunch time. Such a change of space or place could reduce some delinquency such as shoplifting.【XX的观点】

My research following the Brantinghams' suggestion (will examine and compare) what sorts of places and why they are prone to high juvenile crime in Tuen Mun.【我的研究】


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